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Bonding Over Bondage: Why Bondage is Good For Your Relationship

As you’ve doubtless noticed if you’ve been involved in the bondage scene for a while, being involved with someone else who’s into bondage isn’t like being in any other kind of relationship.

It’s better.

There’s a lot of trust involved in a bondage-dominated relationship that isn’t necessarily present in other relationships. Think about it: when you meet someone online for a date, the only trust necessary is trusting that they’re not a serial killer—and hopefully, being prepared for the eventuality that you’re wrong about that.

Bondage dates are different.

When you’re meeting someone online after already talking to them on a bondage site, you’ve already started negotiating your kinks. This is a great step towards immense trust between partners, and can lead to highly increased moments of trust.

Open and honest communication is essential.

If you’ve ever experienced bondage before, whether you were bound or you were the rigger, you know just how important it is to constantly have open, honest communication.

Your partner needs to be trusted to know what you want, but he or she is not a mind reader, and you shouldn’t expect them to be. If you want to have a good relationship that involves bondage, you’re going to have to work at the communication in this relationship.

Once you’ve been talking like this, it becomes very common for couples that bonded online and in person first to be open and honest about their relationships outside of the bedroom as well. Kink can lead to more trust, which is only exemplified in the fact that you’re allowing yourself to be tied up (or trusting yourself to safely tie up a partner).

This is true of online relationships as well.

Couples that meet in person first have a few options for dates. They can go to the movies, go to concerts, or just walk together and hold hands after a short while.

Couples who meet online have one option: talk. They can talk via phone or Internet, but their only way of being together is in communication…which often leads to more open, honest communication.

If a couple is meeting on a kinky or bondage dating site, they can find that this is even more true. Most of what they will have to talk about at first will be their kinks.

When you’re talking about your kinks often, you’re more likely to be willing to explore their limits. Couples who meet this way send many messages back and forth, talking about sex, talking about kinks, and talking about limits—which drastically lowers the chances of most people that they might wind up with people that they are sexually incompatible with.

Meeting online leads to greater sexual satisfaction when you finally do meet.

The old adage that absence makes the heart grow fonder is not just cliché, but true. Many people find that their desire for a lover they’ve exchanged many messages with is far greater than with someone that they met in person, regardless of the person’s level of attractiveness.

Couples who talk online report more intense sex.

When you meet someone online, there’s very little incentive to be secretive or shy about your kinks. After all, there’s no one to see and judge you, and you can talk about your secrets all you want. It will never get back to anyone you’ve ever met.

Because it’s so easy to talk about kink and fetish on the Internet where you’re anonymous, many people get off to talking about their personal desires, even when they hadn’t met anyone for actual kink play in person yet. Because of this, many people do eventually meet someone they’ve been talking to online for quite a while—and sparks can fly very hard.

Kinky couples report deeply running relationships.

The level of trust involved with kink is intense. One of the reasons for this is that you’re trusting someone with the secrets of how deviant you are from normal, and trusting that they won’t tell anyone on you. In a society that tends to kink-shame, this can be a big deal.

Another reason is that for any couples who practice any sort of BDSM correctly, there are intense levels of trust in the bedroom. Couples who practice this report high levels of sexual satisfaction, as well as very high levels of emotional satisfaction.