For those who are either bored in the bedroom or have issues reaching orgasm, gagging and breath play can be the perfect solution. The goal is to restrict just enough of the airflow to send a rush of adrenaline through the sub’s body without making them pass out entirely – sometimes that little rush is just what it takes to get your girlfriend to climax. If you’ve never tried gagging or breath play before, then it’s important to do your research because it can be very dangerous if you do it incorrectly. This little guide will give you the basics on how to get started with this great kink.
Best Gags to Use
The best gag to use is something that isn’t homemade. The gags that you can buy at sex shops are specifically designed for that purpose, so they’re tough to destroy or for something to go wrong. If you can avoid it, you should never just shove something in your partner’s mouth to gag them – when you’re in the heat of the moment, she can end up choking on it accidentally.
You should also avoid using belts around the neck, as they can chafe and catch, becoming dangerous quickly. To restrict the airway, use a tie instead. The material is soft and it won’t latch the way a belt does, so that you can release it easily if you need to. As far as your gag goes, a common ball gag works very well. If you don’t want to strain her jaw, though, you can also use a tie as a gag. This is the best household object to use during breath play, and bondage in general.
Before you engage in any form of bondage, but breath play especially, decide on a safe word or action with your partner. Especially when the airway is going to be restricted, an action will be easier to use. It’s easier than saying a safe word. Make it a movement that you wouldn’t typically make during sex, or else it can be easily missed.
If either partner does this action then it’s time to stop immediately. This is the top way to keep safe during something as potentially dangerous as breath play and gagging. Also be sure to keep your ties and gags fastened in a safe location. Don’t have loose ends that can get caught on bedposts/doors/whatever and choke either of you.
When to Stop
Pay attention to your partner’s color when engaging in breath play and gagging. If the body starts to turn purple or blue, then it’s time to remove the gags and take it easy for a bit. Taking away too much of your partner’s oxygen will cause them to lose consciousness, ruining the sex and putting her in danger. Just be sure not to lose yourself in the moment, because it’s all too easy to go too far and end up with someone getting hurt. Just be observant and willing to stop if things start going south.