If you are a Master, there are going to be times when you need to find someone to act as your sub. This is not always easy to do, because there are some people who think they are excited about the lifestyle, but they are more interested in the concept of the lifestyle than actually it carries. You only find out after you enter into the relationship that the person is not truly a sub and you cannot have a relationship together. There are some indicators you can watch for to see if you have a real sub or someone who is just playing around.
Why Does She Want to Be a sub?
If the answer is something along the lines and there is a desire to find someone who can make them feel complete, you may have a real sub. A true sub is not simply looking for sexual pleasure out of this kind of symbiotic relationship. They can enjoy sex while in a healthy relationship, but it is not a central part of a relationship when you start.
What Does She Want?
When you are talking to your new sub, learn about her desire. You need to make sure your new sub is not just experimenting with the lifestyle. If they say something about they have felt lost in the world as if a part of them is missing, it is a pretty good indication they are looking for a Master and not just something to turn them on.
Also, if your new sub tells you about a desire to be made to feel small and controlled, they may truly want a Master who will keep them in line. There is a fine line between finding someone who wants to be dominated and someone who simply wants to be humiliated for fun. If the person is confused at all about what it is they want, you may not be able to have a healthy Dom/sub relationship.
Only once you feel your new sub actually wants to be a sub on a regular basis should you consider starting a relationship with them. The careful consideration you put into this new relationship will allow both of you to enjoy it more. If you do not take the time to have a conversation with your new sub, you may not be able to have the kind of relationship which will be meaningful and long lasting. Once you have found the right one, you will appreciate the time and effort you put into making sure she is serious.