If your lady has recently agreed to test out spreader bars with you, we cannot begin to tell you how lucky you are. Spreader bars are contraptions that make it impossible for a person to bring together two points in which the spreader bar is attached to. In other words, if you have either of your lady’s wrists attached to either end of the spreader bar, she won’t be able to draw her arms in, which gives you full access to her torso without her being able to interfere. Spreader bars can be extremely erotic and can definitely spice up your sex life. All it takes is learning which ones are right for you and your lady.
Start Your Search
Before you decide you want to bring one or more spreader bars into the bedroom, you and your lady should search online to see what type of spreader bars are available for purchase. There are various types of spreader bars made out of different materials such as plastic and metal. Some spreader bars are adjustable while others come in standard sizes.
Typically, spreader bars come with some sort of handcuff at the ends of the bar. These cuffs vary in regards to material and the way they fasten. Some of these cuffs close by simple Velcro straps while others can be locked securely. Sometimes spreader bars may contain additional pieces that you can use to connect to spreader bars together. An example of this would be if you have a spreader bar for both wrists and ankles. With the extra fastener, you can have your lady bend over and attach the wrist spreader bar to the ankle spreader bar, which prevents her from standing upright. Some spreader bars even come with the wrist cuffs built into the larger ankle spreader bar.
Learn About Positions
Other than the fact that she can’t close her legs when she has a spreader bar attached to them, the best part about spreader bars is that the allow for some fun and interesting positions. While you can probably add the spreader bar to your favorite and typical sexual positions, if your sub is willing and flexible enough, try to find other more challenges positions for the two of you to have sex in.
If you’re in the mood for kinky role-playing, have her lie face down and use both spreader bars to draw her wrists and legs as close together as possible. Afterward, push her up on her knees and have her give your oral. This is incredibly intense, as you control everything from her movements to how deeply she takes you into her mouth.
Of course, no matter what position you have her in you make sure she’s OK with whatever you’re doing to her. Remember, this is supposed to be something that you both enjoy. If she expresses an interest in having you use the spreader bar, give it a try. It can be pretty exhilarating.