Safe words are an important part of any couple or group’s first journey into any new type of sexual situation. When there’s even a small chance that someone might end up not feeling comfortable with the encounter as a whole, a safe word can be used. It’s something that any partner can say at any point during the encounter. Without any further explanation, everything should be stopped. The sexual aspect of the situation should be stepped away from immediately, and conversation is of the utmost necessity to understand why it happened. It can be used by either party, so it’s important to discuss what made you nervous or what made your sub uncomfortable. If it’s something that was triggering to you or something that one of you doesn’t feel comfortable elaborating on, don’t worry about it. Just know that you shouldn’t do that particular action or situation again. What makes a good safe word, though?
Clear and Easy to Say
It should be something that’s easy to say. Having a long string of words or a phrase isn’t usually advisable, just because it can be difficult to say in the heat of the moment. The best safe words are ones that you’ll have no trouble saying as the Dom and ones that your sub won’t have trouble saying, either. For most people, a single word is recommended, and it’s important to make sure that it isn’t something you might use in the situation itself so there won’t be any confusion. Alternatively, if you’re planning on gagging her or otherwise rendering her incapable of speech, it’s necessary to develop a safe action instead. Things like a certain nod or a particular number of fingers held on a hand work well in cases like that.
Easy to Remember
When you’re caught up in what you’re doing, it can be hard to say one word, let alone a whole phrase and sometimes even remembering what it is you’re supposed to be saying if you get uncomfortable can be difficult. This is another instance in which having a single word is in your best interest. Easy to say and incredibly easy to remember are the best qualities to consider when you’re looking for a great safe word. Experienced enthusiasts recommend something that you wouldn’t associate with sex at all. It will stand out in the minds of any participants and if it needs to be said, it will help anyone step away from the situation.
While having a safe word is absolutely necessary for any sexual encounter, it’s entirely possible that you won’t ever have to use it. Just the act of having a safe word there to use will usually make even the most hesitant and inexperienced of subs willing to try things they wouldn’t have tried otherwise. Making sure everyone feels comfortable is of the utmost importance, after all, so just the act of fostering an accepting environment is going to be really great for the success of your encounter overall.