There are quite a few people who enjoy the act of choking as a part of a BDSM relationship. This is an exciting way to cause a climax to be even more enjoyable as well as a way to cause a sub to feel completely dominated. Of course, choking is not for everyone and when done improperly, it can be dangerous. This does not mean you should not give it a try. It just means you need to be careful in what you are doing.
How to Choke without Causing Harm
The first thing to remember when you are engaging in choking is to know how to do it without hurting your sub. The windpipe is not a piece of glass, but your bare hands are strong enough to crush it if you are not careful. Your goal when you are choking someone is to apply just enough pressure to cut off the air flow. You do not even need to stop all of the air from getting through. Just by cutting off some of the air from getting through, it can create a sense of panic by not getting enough oxygen.
Make sure you are paying attention to the other person for signs you are going too far. If the color in the face changes from red to purple, you need to stop. Also, if your sub uses one of the non-verbal signs to stop, you need to stop immediately and see what you can do to help correct the problem. Keep in mind what you did wrong if you are going to try it in the future again.
Use a Stop and Go Approach
One of the best ways to enjoy choking without worrying about hurting your sub is to use a stop and go approach. This is where you choke your sub a little bit followed by a period of letting your sub breathe. When you allow your sub to breathe in between choking sessions, you will not run the risk of strangling to death. Apply caution at all times not to use too much force or to go for too long.
Choking with your Hand or a Choker
Choking with your hand is the best way to have full control over what is happening and to stop in an instant. If you are thinking about using a choking device, you need to make sure you fully understand how to use it. Practice removing the choker as quickly as possible in case you have to remove it in an emergency. If you do not feel you can remove it quickly enough, stick with using your hand until you can get it right.
Choking can be a lot of fun for both Master and sub, but you need to be careful. As long as you are following these guidelines, you should be able to practice choking safely. Just make sure you are following your guidelines with a safety word and you will be able to have fun with choking.