While it’s fun being the Dom during BDSM sex, taking the lead all the time gets boring for you and her both. Trust me – if you’re bored, then she was bored a long time ago. She was just polite enough to not say anything. Switch things up by reversing your roles next time you hit the sack; she’ll be grateful and you’ll get to experience the other side of BDSM, which is just as amazing as the Dom side. Letting her make you her sex slave will spice things up for sure, and give her that surge of dominance she’s been craving in the bedroom.
If you’re going to be a sub, then you need to act like a sub. That means no more talking back, no ordering her around, and no questions. Let her do what she wants with you – trust me, you’re sure to love it. Being tied up and left to her mercy can be just the thing to really get you going. A lot of guys respond really well to their women bending them to their will. If you have a dominant personality, taking the role of the sub during sex can be difficult, but you have to just suck it up and let her have her way. Letting her take the reins is the perfect way to get her back in the mood and interested in what’s going on between the sheets again.
Yet again, just let her do what she wants to you. If she wants to try out using her vibrator on you, then open yourself up to the opportunity. Not only will the vibrations give you a great boner, but also you might find something you like. It doesn’t take away from your masculinity to enjoy playing around with toys – in fact, most men who try out toys wind up really enjoying them. It’s not like you have to go around bragging to all your friends about how your girlfriend used her vibrator on you last weekend. Keep it to yourself, but let yourself enjoy it. Even if she wants to try pegging you, give it a chance. You can always tell her to stop.
This rule sounds cheesy, but it’s completely true. When you let her make you her sex slave, it’s important that you both have fun. Especially if you’re going to be doing extreme bondage, establish a safe word for you two to use. Be able to use it whenever you want and feel safe knowing that she’ll stop the second you say it. Communication is the key to great sex; so don’t be afraid to tell her how you feel. Opening yourself up to expressing yourself and enjoying new things will make the entire situation much more enjoyable for the both of you. She’ll love having her very own sex slave, and you’ll love how she uses you in ways you have never even dreamed of. It’s a complete win/win for everyone involved, so there’s no reason not to try it.